As a therapist, there are times when I am working through a problem with a client and I say something that makes me think “Why don’t I do that?” Sometimes we can “know” what we should say, think, do or believe but when it comes to a difficult situation, those things go out the window. I feel like such a hypocrite.

For example, I have a client who is in a severe depression because they can’t seem to get and/or stay pregnant. I talk about not having one thing define their life as a success or failure but then I feel very similarly when I too struggle in the IVF process. Sometimes I get so cloudy with not having the big things in life that I’ve always wanted such as being married and having children that I have a hard time finding gratitude for the amazing life that I have created for myself. A therapist shouldn’t feel like this, right? It’s hard to live the human experience while also helping others through it at times.